Ugh, the frustration!
You made the choice to make a change. You set out full of good intentions. You planned your steps to make it happen and even made a little headway. And then, for whatever reason, it stopped!
To rub salt in the wound, the failure to keep momentum starts to impact other areas of your life. Before you know it you are sitting curled up in front of Netflix, spoon deep in a pint-size tub of Ben & Jerry’s.
Trying to get out of that funk can be a challenge but entirely doable.
Here are some tips to help:
RECOGNIZE YOUR WARNING SIGNS
When you have tried to make changes in the past, what obstacles have come up? Here are a few common culprits:
Lack of resources and know-how.
Lack of finances.
When we make a change in our lives it is very common to experience hurdles. Becoming familiar with what is likely to trip us up, before we even begin, means we are better placed to cope. List out your hurdles and then overcome them with a solution. For example,
You decided to eat healthily.
By the time you are feeling hungry, you choose the quickest option, which is usually something unhealthy.
Prepare your meal plan and food prep in advance.
By doing this exercise you are setting yourself up to succeed. Try implementing your plan before you make your next change. But, even if you are already at the Ben & Jerry’s, it’s not too late to grab a paper and pen and start over!
CHUNK IT DOWN
Make your change a destination, then plan out all your stops along the way. If you try to charge ahead to your destination without putting action stops in, exhaustion will hit you, and you’ll be more likely to quit. Check out my free resources and download ‘Journey to Change’ to help you. brandyouday.com/courses
MANAGE TIME AND OVERWHELM
Often we decide to implement a change in our lives and still try to keep all our other plates spinning at the same time. Sound familiar?
One is going to crash and when it goes, you can bet your bottom dollar more will follow.
For a change to succeed you need to allow it the space to do so.
Taking a moment to sit and plan out your time sounds so simple. But, it demands a lot of thought and a big reality check with yourself. Keeping a one-week ‘day-diary’ before committing to a change can be invaluable. Use it to track your daily habits, you must be 100% on board with doing this exercise for it to work. You check in with it every hour and write what you have done. At the end of the week take time to assess what you can adjust, reduce (permanently or temporarily)or remove entirely. Make way for your change to embed itself in your existing routine without disrupting it.
For example, if you are wanting to change career, you may carry out your diary entries and see that by,
adjusting your alarm to ring 30 minutes earlier on a Monday and Thursday, you are able to check in with your LinkedIn network.
By temporarily reducing your 1 hour lunch hour to 30 minutes, you are freeing up 30 minutes to research companies and opportunities. And,
by removing 45 minutes of scrolling social media in the evening on Tuesday and Wednesday you can spend time updating your resume.
You made the choice to embark on this change and quite simply, in times when our motivation is at an all-time low we must go back to the very origins of WHY we decided to do this. Going back to the foundations of our change sometimes helps us to muster the courage to refuel and restart. BUT, it is also a valuable exercise to recognize that actually, this change might not work for you. What you thought was going to be a change for the best is turning out to be to the detriment of your life right now.
For example, you decided you wanted to move house but the properties you want don’t exist in the current market. Do you continue with your search? Or, perhaps it might be better to pause your ‘change’ for six months and begin afresh.
It doesn’t matter how big or small but celebrate any wins or successes you have. Get a piece of paper and stick it on the fridge door. At the end of every day list out ALL the small wins relating to your change you have had.
For example, a new job might mean you spoke to a recruiter. A new fitness routine might mean you ran up and down the stairs three times that day (one more than the day before!). Whatever the success, add it to your list. When the ice cream is calling you, look at that list and see if there is anything you can replicate now to keep your momentum going. No matter how slow.
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